A woman attracts with her life , emotions , fullness of inner radiance , and not the subtlety of her volumes ... Becoming slim is often a fanatically cherished desire of many women. Many of you have tried to lose weight through various diets and weight loss systems. Almost every woman today can write a book herself on how to become slim. Do you agree?
We , women , know so much about this , but still, for almost all of us, this topic remains problematic .
I don't know much about being overweight. Since childhood, I was quite a full girl , so the school was not without ridicule. All this grew into complexes ... At the age of 15, I decided to lose weight. Diets , whole weeks of complete starvation , raw food ... what only I didn’t do with myself then. And all this time I was constantly in a depressed , depressed state. While losing weight , denying yourself everything - this is stress. When the weight goes away , another panic begins - how to keep it on the achieved result?
Today I will not write about physical methods of losing weight: nutrition , sports , water ... You know all this without me.
I will talk about other methods of losing weight: psychological and energy. After all, this is where you need to start. And not at all with proper nutrition ... It all started when I fell in love. Yes , besides, I fell in love so that emotions jumped from endorphins to adrenaline , and then down together into hopeless depression.
During the year of this love, I lost 30 kilograms!!! I became not just thin , I became catastrophically thin.
From the joy of communicating with the object of love, I was shaking and no food went into my mouth. , I galloped like a horse , forgetting the last time I ate. Well , of course , getting into a terrible depression from quarrels , do nothing but cry.
Why am I writing all this? I do not offer you a similar method of losing weight. The point here is completely different. It's all about emotions! This is what I want to talk about today.
Why do we eat what we eat?
You all know that we consume much more food than our body needs. We can live in peace , eating once or twice a day , in small portions. Real physical hunger is hardly familiar to modern man. The hunger that we feel is the hunger of the subtle body , our energy shell. We can sit all day on the spot , doing some business , without spending any physical energy at all , but at lunch we want to eat.
Why? It's all about energy. Each product and each taste has its own energy. Ayurveda speaks well of this. So , for example , sweet taste calms , salty - concentrates , spicy - activates , bitter gives tone and patience ... Also , each product has its own personal energy. Some products have feminine and soft energy , others have masculine , some raise prana , others ground... when we want to eat, this is an indicator that we lack some kind of state. We lack a certain energy.
Why do women eat sweet stress while most men eat salty? Because a woman unconsciously tries to relax and calm down ( this is a property of a sweet taste), and a man tries to gather himself and activate his strength ( spicy and salty).
Digesting food , we connect with its energy , it fills us with its vibrations and our mental state changes. So , for example , there are situations when at a certain life period you had an addiction to some product ( it gave you the necessary energy), and then at one moment , you realized that you no longer want to eat it.
I remember I had such a period when I ate lemon peels. This coincided with a difficult astrological period. And I realized that this bitter taste on a subtle level gave me stamina and patience. I bought a kilogram of lemons , peeled off the peels and ate them with tea without sugar and honey. Everyone who saw it grimaced and squinted , but it was very tasty for me. But literally a month later , when this period in my life ended , my desire to eat peels completely disappeared. For a long time , friends brought 2 kilograms of lemons for tea , but I did not know what to do with them.
At least make some jam! We eat because we lack emotions and some kind of state . Please remember any day of your life.
- Did you eat a lot that day?
- Did you at all ?
- When we are filled with positive emotions, we do not need additional sources of energy , which means that we do not need to compensate for its lack with the help of products.
- Why Diets Don't Help
Usually debilitating diets help to lose weight only for a while. The subtle body accumulates energy hunger and one day we break down.
Here is what one of my friends , who was on a strict diet for six months, says: “One night I woke up and realized that I couldn’t do it anymore ... despite the fact that I achieved excellent results , my body was quite slender. But even that fact couldn't stop me. I started eating everything in the middle of the night. I started with salads , swallowed everything that was in the refrigerator , even ate all the sweets from the child's New Year's gift. I ate and could not stop ... ".
This is not physical hunger at all , it is a thin body exhausted without certain energies .
The physical body can endure hunger for a very long time and without any disruption , calmly return to nutrition. But the subtle body cannot do this. He needs certain states every day and if we n’t give them to him , then we begin to wear out emotionally , become twitchy , nervous , irritable. Remember the state when you are on a diet for a long time?
There is absolutely no satisfaction and peace in it. The key to a good figure is primarily in our subtle body. When we get a lot of emotions from life, our energy body is saturated , and appetite becomes minimal. Moreover, emotions do not have to be super-positive , the experience of emotions, in principle, fills the subtle body. If we live sadness , and do not suppress it , then it is also able to give food to the subtle body. As you know , not knowing how to live emotions , people just seize them.
Positive emotions have a special weight loss effect.
I decided to conduct an experiment , and for a month I planned something joyful for myself every day: a trip to SPA procedures , a visit to a beautician , a visit to the tonus club , delicious tea in my favorite cafe , a car ride around the city at night to your favorite music , a hammam , bath with all sorts of women's stuff , shopping ... in general, the list was long. And I noticed that during this month a few kilograms completely imperceptibly went away , although I have not been on diets for 4 years already. I ate when I wanted to , and the rest of the time I tried to spend as much time as possible in an emotionally upbeat mood. Then I noticed the same effect with my mother-in-law when we gave her a car. She literally melted 3 sizes in 1.5 months as she gets a huge kick out of driving. She admitted that she doesn’t feel like eating at all , she even forgets about it , especially when she has some kind of trip ahead of her. And then I began to see this pattern in a huge number of women.
In your life, there are also “high” zones in which you do not need additional nourishment from food , in which you are charged with positive and joy. Find them in your life.
When we live in harmony with our nature , with our body, we do not get hung up on food , our taste habits change , interest in products changes. Our consciousness is changing , and we stop wanting harmful products.
So , for example , if suppress ourselves in something , force us to do what we don’t like , then we, at the energy level , will strive for heavier , overwhelming food , with lower vibrations. These are chocolate , heavy cereals , all kinds of semi-finished products , pasta , noodles , mushrooms , etc. These products will give us the subtle power of survival , but at the same time they will physically destroy us.
And , on the contrary , during an energy upsurge, no one will be able to push heavy food into us , because it will not correspond to our vibrations. When we are well , we are satisfied , then we prefer light food with high vibrations to maintain this state.
It is important to pay attention to the state of euphoria , after which , usually , the desire to eat dissipates. Why? Because this is too much stress for the subtle body , and according to the law of balance, it begins to ground itself through food. Therefore, joy and lightness are good , and euphoria is a sign of unpreparedness for events , our body will try to balance our state either through heavy food or through a rollback into depression.
Be careful! Holy people eat a handful of rice a day throughout their lives , not because they so pacify their spirit , but because , being in contact with God , they get such deep emotions that the process of eating for them is just a way to support the physical body alive. We are not saints , but our energy body also requires emotions , deep states , joy , sensuality! If we receive them only through food , then our fate is sad ...
What do I suggest?
I suggest that you experiment and for 21 days be in touch with your emotions and do a little bit of what you like every day ! Write yourself a list of such activities. Let each of them take at least half an hour , so that you have time to nourish yourself with joy!
It is important to do not what is good for a woman , but is “high” for you personally! And your list will be individual. Start creating your joyful life from today , start feeding your subtle body with good emotions , and not with buns and chocolates.
Do something good for yourself every day. It is very important that part of these joys be connected with the body , since the body needs positive emotions in its address. For example , SPA , massage , baths , body wraps , sexual intimacy , sports , dancing… it is very important that the body feels joy in itself , and not a constant feeling of guilt for its imperfection.
Learn to rejoice through the body , and it will cease to be an anchor of negative emotions. On the contrary , you will begin to love him and feel him.
Wear suitable clothing during this time. In hoodies and cotton shorts, we do not feel our body! It is necessary to wear stylish clothes in size , beautiful underwear , stockings ... what gives your body a feeling of attraction. For example , I don't wear pantyhose at all , ever . This is very uncomfortable , I feel isolated from my nature ( obviously because the 2nd chakra is being pulled). For several years now I have been wearing stockings in winter and autumn. Feelings when I wear stockings are completely different , more free. Just like in beautiful lingerie , of one's own sensuality and sexuality. You may have your own chips regarding your body , but they need to be found.
Get away from the destructive aspects of your life , work on your consciousness.
Our body is screaming to us about something , let's listen to it! I know for sure that if I gain a couple of extra pounds - this is a clear indicator that I have recently stopped paying attention to myself and pleasing myself , stopped living and enjoying life. At these moments, I thank my body for the reminder and begin to bring myself into an adequate energy state.
Here is a list of things that increase our weight , and these are not foods at all:
- Rejection of one's nature in favor of a husband , child , relatives , girlfriends , colleagues;
- When we do what is unpleasant to us;
- When we do not fulfill our destiny;
- When we are bogged down in resentment of the past;
- Grievances against men ( often form a protective fat layer in the thighs);
- Fear of life , fear of not being able to cope ( forms a protective layer in the abdomen , like a shield from social blows);
- When we give up our desires;
- When we give up our life path , staying in the comfort zone
- From a psychological point of view , the emotion that can lead to being overweight is fear. And fear is eaten by women , flooded by men ... but it does not go anywhere from this.
Therefore , if you feel that the reason for your extra pounds is deeper than just emotional dissatisfaction with life , then deal with your fears and find the courage to live the way you like , and not as expected , and not as usual ! Go to your fears , because behind every fear there is a huge energy and strength.
- Focus on your desires , not food. A good figure is not an end , it is a means to achieve something .
- What? Think about what you want to achieve with a good figure?
- We do everything in our life for certain states. We want to experience , feel , live...
- And even a good figure we need not for show , but for some very important feeling of being in this world.
Try to concentrate on the states in each day , and not on the figure , not on grams , not on calories. Live a life full of joy , feelings , adventures , experiences. Somewhere you can mourn , somewhere you can fool around!
There is one wonderful psychological technique from gestalt therapy , it is called "As if ...". This phrase is designed to return the psychological resource to get out of a difficult situation , and in terms of our figure, it also works and sounds like this: “Live as if you already had an ideal figure for you.”
So imagine:
You are now in your ideal body , you are comfortable and at ease , you feel attractive and desirable.
- How else has your life changed since you changed your figure?
- Maybe you started taking better care of yourself?
- Do you want to devote more time to your body?
- Have you enjoyed yourself more?
- Maybe your husband has become more sensual?
- Or have you become more relaxed and calm?
Track these changes and start bringing them into your life right now , without waiting for some indicator on the scales. Joy is a feeling available with any physique and weight.
I want to draw attention to the fact that our mental ideal is not always the ideal for our body.
So you decided for yourself that you want to weigh 55 kg , you decided with your mind that it would be good , that such waist and hip parameters are good for you. Put your hand to your chest , imagine that you are already in such a body , pay attention to your feelings. Feel whether you are really comfortable , easy and joyful , or your mind rejoices , and your body is filled with tension? If there is tension or anxiety , then this is clearly not good for the body. You need to take quality , not quantity.
Let you not have advertising thinness , but you can make your body really attractive , sexy , alluring by working on the quality of the body , on the muscles and its elasticity , on the smoothness of the skin ... these are indicators of health in a woman's body.
I worked with models for several years , there were three men in my professional company. We had a pretty good relationship , and I could sincerely communicate with them on various topics. And I asked them somehow , is it a problem for their family that they work in a society of models , beautiful women with an advertising figure? And they all admitted that they like women of a different warehouse. All three wives were delicious women in the body!
I know few men who really like very thin women. A woman attracts with her life , emotions , fullness of inner radiance , and not the subtlety of her volumes.
I saw so many amazing women with a flexible figure , attractive roundness , such an incredible attractive energy came from them that I lost the idea that being thin is cool.
- It's cool to be filled , joyful , to feel your body and your deepest sexuality!
- 's cool when a woman controls her body , when she can be a skilled lover and an inaccessible queen ...
- It's cool when a woman knows how to laugh lively , brightly and contagiously , so that all the people around begin to blossom!
- It's cool when a woman knows how to live life to the fullest and get joy even from little things ...
She is truly an attractive woman!
And just being in the pursuit of weight all the time , living on the verge of collapse and counting calories is not cool at all.
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